22nd June 2017

I’m sure you were as shocked as I was at the Grenfell Tower blaze. If it left me feeling numb for a few days afterwards, I hate to think what those personally affected by it are going through.

It was also interesting to witness how visitors, such as the Queen and Theresa May, responded to it.

Of particular interest to me, personally, was Prince William’s comment, reported in The Telegraph, about the survivors needing counselling. He is not the only celebrity to be an advocate for counselling, though. His brother, Prince Harry, has also been an advocate for it – as has Halle Berry and Amanda Holden, amongst others.

Following my experiences after the death of my husband, I am also an advocate for counselling.

As mentioned in last week’s blog, my life had been focused around my husband for the last 3 years of his life. So, when he died, along with the grief of losing the love of my life, I was also suddenly left without a focus. The result was that I just didn’t know how to cope with what was happening to me.

Thankfully, there was an advert for counselling in the leaflet the hospice gave me following my husband’s death. So I made an enquiry but was told that they didn’t normally give counselling so soon following a death. I guess I must’ve impressed on them my need, though, because they made an exception and I started counselling just a few weeks after my husband’s death.

I found it incredibly beneficial. I began to piece my life together and function better. I learned about coping techniques such as allowing myself to cry, socialising with others, making plans for my future, and not beating myself up about my failings. It was hard work but I made rapid progress. I’m not sure I would be here now without it.

If you feel counselling would be beneficial to you, I’m happy to say that, as well as offering signposting to other counselling services, WHISC have their own team of counsellors. So do take a look at the Counselling page on this website and get in touch if you want to take things further.